Over the past few months, I’ve embarked on a journey of deep meditation. The experience of reaching a flow state, that deep state of complete relaxation where you almost feel like you are floating out of your body, brings a clarity beyond words. It’s here, in this expansive state, that I can most easily explore deeper concepts.
Recently, during one such experience, I sought wisdom from Tabú – help for my next blog entry. We delved into a dialogue about human experiences within the 3D tapestry of life, discussing the notion that every single encounter, every experience, is intrinsically designed for our benefit. The perspective that every life event is preordained — a contract of sorts, agreed upon by your higher self (your soul etc). Each participant has consented. In essence, nothing — and I underscore nothing — transpires without the permission and agreement of your soul.
Embracing this lesson has profoundly altered my perception of our existence in this 3D realm. It has become a cornerstone in my healing process, allowing me to integrate and transcend numerous traumas. It has also helped me to look for the good in every experience. Yet, I wonder how this information might be received by others. When I broached this concept with friends recently, they were not receptive, and understandably so. It seems to teeter on the edge of victim-blaming, suggesting that every experience, regardless of its nature, is ultimately beneficial and sanctioned by their soul. What about the terrible things? What about all of the suffering and death? Why would our “loving” higher self choose such experiences for us? This revelation raises profound questions about the nature of our life’s journey and the lessons we are here to learn.
The challenge many face in embracing deeper spiritual teachings is often rooted in the resistance of the ego. The ego’s primary function is to safeguard us—it’s our personal survival mechanism. It recoils at the notion of intentionally selecting a painful or negative experience because, from the ego’s limited perspective, to choose suffering and death defies logic. The ego operates within the confines of its own belief systems. It exists for a reason, yet it is not equipped to grasp the nuanced layers of higher spiritual truths; its toolbox is simply not designed for such complexities. This disconnect between ego and spirit becomes pronounced when contemplating predestined life events. It’s more palatable for the ego to accept that we might have chosen our partners or our family, yet it struggles to fathom why our higher selves would agree to profoundly challenging life events, like a loved one facing a life-threatening illness or ourselves encountering tragic fates.
In my own journey, I’ve grappled with feelings of victimhood, my ego loudly protesting against the injustices inflicted by others. This mindset, however, is one I’ve outgrown. I’ve come to understand that my soul consented to every experience in my life, each one meticulously serving my benefit. This realization has been pivotal in healing from life’s traumas. I am not a victim, nor have I ever been—despite the ego’s convincing cries. Instead, I am a co-creator in a mutual agreement of experiences. This awareness has empowered me to step back and become an observer, aligning more with my consciousness rather than my ego, and acknowledging that, beyond my earthly constraints, every moment is ultimately for my greater good.
So how do I reconcile with this daunting notion—that my soul chose the obstacles I face? That I, Melissa Valo, have no control over those “contracted” for experiences (aside from the way I choose to react and define what I experience). The cornerstone is trust. I trust in my higher self, my source essence, believing it always seeks my soul’s best interest. This trust transcends the ego’s narrow view and embraces the soul’s journey. It allows me to release expectations and detach from specific outcomes, understanding that regardless of the situation or the ego’s judgment of it, there is an inherent benefit at play. This deep-seated trust is what enables me to navigate life with a sense of peace, secure in the knowledge that every experience, no matter how it may appear, is aligned with my soul’s evolution. An understanding that has set me free.
